The Secret Garden
S1: Ep14 Surviving the Holiday Blues with a Narcissist with Kevin from The Royal We

S1: Ep14 Surviving the Holiday Blues with a Narcissist with Kevin from The Royal We

November 26, 2020

Surviving the Holiday Blues with a Narcissist with Kevin from The Royal We

Joining me in the garden I have Keven from The Royal We here to talk about the Holiday Blues or the Holiday “Boohoos” with a Narcissist. One of the biggest triggers for Narcissistic injury is when you have true joy and happiness. During the Holidays, Birthdays, Anniversaries, work promotions, weddings, and all the moments of joy, the Narcissist cannot stand watching you be happy, so they must take that away from you. They will project their innermost insecurities on to you and make sure to ruin these moments of happiness for you. They start to chip away one little moment at a time. In this episode, we give examples of how they do this and tools to use to survive these moments and empower yourself to not let these moments affect you for the rest of your life. 

The Royal We on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjl9RgJSokTXPR68wsrX7Zw

 

The Royal We Live Chat on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCslDOe-8gV49Kg_j374OJVw

 

The Royal We Fellowship

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOdSOLD7yyDVmDNdQa0nveA

 

The Royal We - www.jointheroyalwe.com

Facebook and Instagram @theroyalwehost

YouTube @theroyalwe

 

Maegan’s Information “The Divine Self”

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

 

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

S1: Ep13 The Narcissist is Our Soul Mate with Rebecca Dettman

S1: Ep13 The Narcissist is Our Soul Mate with Rebecca Dettman

November 16, 2020

The Narcissist is Our Soul Mate with Rebecca Dettman (aka Soul Doctor)

So many people ask survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence “why don’t you just leave” not knowing the trauma bond between the abuser and survivor is very powerful. Rebecca joins Maegan in the garden today to talk about the spiritual connection the survivor and narcissist have between each other and if the survivor is willing, allowing the narcissist to be their greatest teacher. The Narcissist is so good and finding your insecurities and using that to mirror you during the honeymoon phase of the abuse cycle to then use those same insecurities to abuse you and make you feel unworthy of love and a healthy relationship creating a pattern of abuse that is almost impossible to break free from.

 

Meet Rebecca Dettman:

Rebecca Dettman began her career working as a national print journalist for a decade, before branching into radio and podcasting. She formerly co-hosted the ACRA award-nominated Soul Sistas national radio show and the global Love-Life podcast, before launching her own Soul Doctor Show in 2016, which has been downloaded more than 100,000 times worldwide.

 

Since 2005 Rebecca has also worked in private practice as a psychic consultant and channel for higher wisdom. She is a fiction novelist, practicing pagan, feminist, and a modern-day priestess in spiritual service to the community.

Rebecca’s website

https://www.souldoctorshow.com/

The Soul Doctor Show Podcast

https://www.souldoctorshow.com/soul-doctor-podcast/ 

Bookings and Services of Rebecca

https://www.souldoctorshow.com/bookings/

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/326343664400568/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Rebecca_Dettman

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wishingwell.love/ 

Maegan’s Information “The Divine Self”

YouTube

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf 

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

 

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

 

S1:Ep12 Self-Care and Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Suzanne Falter

S1:Ep12 Self-Care and Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Suzanne Falter

November 6, 2020

Self-Care and Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Suzanne Falter

Suzanne Falter joins Maegan in the garden in this episode to talk about self-care. What? What is self-care? Most of us in abusive and toxic relationships have no idea what boundaries are and what self-care is or to process it and become so detached from our emotions that we learn to put others before ourselves. Narcissists love to erode our boundaries and make you jump through hoops to stay focused on them, so you let yourself go little by little. In this episode, Suzanne and Maegan discuss what self-care is, how to start to take care of you, and begin to see where you need more boundaries in life.

 

Meet Suzanne Falter:

Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster, and essayist whose work has been featured in SELF, O, More, Tiny Buddha, and The New York Times. She is the host of The Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women and Back to Happy podcasts, and has been heard widely on podcasts and radio including Coast to Coast AM. She’s the author of multiple self-help titles including The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks)

 

Suzanne Falter

www.suzannefalter.com

The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care Book on Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1492698539/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i

 

Self-Car for Extremely Busy Women Podcast

https://suzannefalter.com/xbwpodcast/

 

Back to Happy Podcast

https://suzannefalter.com/backtohappy/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/svfalter

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/suzflt

 

YouTube

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf 

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

 

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

 

 

S1: Ep11 Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan

S1: Ep11 Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan

October 30, 2020

Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan

 

Joining me in the garden is Paul Filan. We talk about looking at resentment held in the body that is left over from a toxic relationship with a Narcissist. When we hold resentment in the body we tend to attract more toxic people or even have to take a look at all the relationships in our lives to see if maybe they are no longer serving us in our values and goals. When we are gaslight, lied to, and exploited in toxic relationships we tend to lose ourselves and hold on to so much resentment for our abusers and in turn, can make us physically ill.  

 

DivineEarthCo

https://www.etsy.com/shop/divineearthco/

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

 

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

Suggested Reading

Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup

https://www.amazon.com/Dodging-Energy-Vampires/dp/1401954790/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=dodging+energy+vampires+by+christiane+northrup&qid=1601757896&sr=8-2

Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie (great for relationships with a Narcissist)

https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1601758526&sr=8-2

 

 

 

S1: Ep10 Toxic Cycles and the Relationship with Alcohol with Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis)

S1: Ep10 Toxic Cycles and the Relationship with Alcohol with Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis)

October 22, 2020

In the Garden today, I have Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis) here to talk about our relationship with alcohol and the toxic patterns we have on our life. So many of us in toxic and abusive relationships struggle with our relationship with alcohol as it became a tool to help numb us out from experiencing the abuse or even becomes our friend to help minimize the deep sadness and loneliness we are experiencing. This can give us even more anxiety as we already struggle with our relationship with a Narcissist. Jenn is the founder of Sober Sis. Sober Sis is a wonderful community of women to begin to explore their relationship with alcohol in a judgment-free and rule-free community of like-minded women to find connection and hold the space for one another as they take the journey into exploring their drinking habits. It is truly a divine sisterhood.

 

Jenn’s Bio:

I'm Jenn (aka SoberSis). I'm a new empty nester and people ask me all the time what I'm going to do in this next season of my life. Well, you're looking at it. I feel passionate about making it safe for women to have a conversation about alcohol without judgment, labels, or rules. I'm a retired "grey area" drinker. Around the middle of my 40's, I was tired, feeling stuck on auto-pilot, and ready for a change. I didn't want to enter the big 5-0 the way I did 40. I took a closer look at my life. My health...mental, physical, and spiritual. I began to find out ways to have more energy, better sleep, and really stay present in my own life. I began to realize wine wasn't doing me any real favors. In fact, it was undoing a lot of my hard work during the day (I call it the detox just to retox loop). It had also become like an emotional crutch to lean on during times of anxiety or even boredom!

 

So, I started the 21-day reset for women because I wanted to share what I have learned and experienced first hand. Currently, over 8,000 women from all over the world have participated. We're more of a sisterhood and a real community of women pursuing being present and soberminded. Each person has the opportunity and space to renegotiate their relationship with alcohol. We are not a sobriety club although many of us do choose to enjoy an alcohol free lifestyle.

 

I've spent time taking a break from drinking without having to use willpower or feeling deprived. In fact, I'd say it has turned into more of a mindful lifestyle. Learning the science behind what my body/mind was experiencing has empowered me to make different choices. It's like I was living a somewhat divided life, constantly feeling in conflict and stuck in an internal tug-of-war. God really brought me freedom by bringing together the mind-body-spirit connection so I could live a more wholehearted life. That's how I want to live as I get closer to my 50's and beyond.

 

Sober Sis Links:

Sober Sis Home Pagewww.sobersis.com/home

Free Guidewww.sobersis.com

Free Video Serieshttps://www.sobersis.com/new-videos

21 Day Reset Challengewww.sobersis.com/21daychallenge

Follow On Facebook   ~   Follow On IG @sobersis

 

The Divine Self YouTube Channel

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

 

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

S1: Ep9 The Perfect Match! The Narcissist/Empath Dance with Denise Correll

S1: Ep9 The Perfect Match! The Narcissist/Empath Dance with Denise Correll

October 15, 2020

Our guest today is Denise Correll. Denise joined us to talk about who is the perfect target for the Narcissist and why we attracted them. Narcissists love to suck the Lifeforce out of Empaths and they do the Narcissistic/Empath dance while the cycle of abuse and trauma bond is formed and the intense connection between the two increases. Denise does a weekly podcast called Enlightened Empaths that is on all major podcast channels and she goes into detail about being an Empath, what it is and how to navigate the world when you take on the feeling, emotions and energies of others.

 

Connect with Denise Correll

The Grateful Messenger

https://www.thegratefulmessenger.com/

 

Enlightened Empaths Podcast (on all Major podcast channels)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enlightened-empaths/id1291017961

 

Join the Enlightened Empath Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/pages/category/Motivational-Speaker/Enlightened-Empaths-474090429627579/

 

The Divine Self YouTube Channel

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

 

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

Mentioned in this Episode

The Empaths Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff, MD

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=empaths+guide+to+survival&gclid=Cj0KCQjwwuD7BRDBARIsAK_5YhUZO3BH4AgCjJre4XLgMlSNoCQwhaQby16e8AMiiuhYIgwCvGtiAdAaAsalEALw_wcB&hvadid=241619810580&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9061191&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=9473604287394435128&hvtargid=kwd-305181936216&hydadcr=8265_10374952&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_8tq1dmsvvd_e

 

 

 

S1: Ep8 Finding Your Voice and Connection with Elisa Gonzales

S1: Ep8 Finding Your Voice and Connection with Elisa Gonzales

October 8, 2020

My guest today in the garden is Elisa Gonzales the Assistant Professor of Voice and Acting and the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Elisa is trained in a technique called Fitzmaurice and we discuss how to use the voice, body, and breath to connect to your true self, find your voice and, release trauma from the body. During toxic and abusive relationships, we tend to shrink down and lose our voice and disconnect from who we truly are. It is hard to find a connection to ourselves after we leave a narcissist who has mentally and emotionally abused us or find our voice when finally deciding to put boundaries up with the Narcissist. We open you up to explore where you might need to work on finding our voice or where in the body you are holding unwanted negative energy.

 

Connect with Elisa to do a Fitzmaurice Workshop

https://www.fitzmauriceinstitute.org/new-gallery-teachers-back-up/2017/11/30/elisa-gonzales

 

The Divine Self YouTube Channel

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

 

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

 

 

S1: Ep7 Triangulation and Murder/Suicide with Mark Gerardot

S1: Ep7 Triangulation and Murder/Suicide with Mark Gerardot

October 1, 2020

Joining Maegan in the garden is Mark Gerardot. This is a tragic story of triangulation that ends in a murder/suicide. Mark talks about this tragic love triangle and the story of how it leads to two people losing their lives. Tragically, this is a story that happens way too often when relationships get this complex.   

 

Get the full story in Mark Gerardot's book Irreparable here on amazon (all proceeds go to the Golden Retriever Rescue of Atlanta)

https://www.amazon.com/Irreparable-Three-Lives-Deaths-Story-ebook/dp/B086KXG3XL

 

Golden Retriever Rescue of Atlanta

https://www.grra.com/

 

The Divine Self YouTube

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf  

 

The Divine Self on Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

For coachings, information and support The Divine Self website

https://www.divine-self.com/

 

 

 

 

 

 

S1: Ep6 The Narcissistic Family Dynamic with Kevin from The Royal We

S1: Ep6 The Narcissistic Family Dynamic with Kevin from The Royal We

September 25, 2020

Joining me in the Garden today Kevin from The Royal We on YouTube comes to talk about the Narcissistic family dynamic and how the abuse cycle works within the family system. Kevin has extensive knowledge on the topic of Narcissism and was one of my favorite channels to watch as I learned about the abuse cycles in the family dynamic.   Kevin's YouTube Channel The Royal We educates supports and encourages so many people to find the strength to leave their abusive dynamic and find their inner strength. So many of us are in a family dynamic that is very abusive and toxic, and we have no idea as this has been our normal throughout our whole life. We dive down the rabbit hole today to start to explore the patterns we picked up in life and discuss the family dynamic and the signs of abuse.

 

The Royal We on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjl9RgJSokTXPR68wsrX7Zw

 

The Royal We Live Chat on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCslDOe-8gV49Kg_j374OJVw

 

The Royal We Fellowship

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOdSOLD7yyDVmDNdQa0nveA

 

The Royal We - www.jointheroyalwe.com

 

Facebook and Instagram @theroyalwehost

YouTube @theroyalwe

 

The Divine Self YouTube Channel

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

 

YouTube @TheDivineSelf

Facebook @MaeganDivine

Twitter @TheDivineSelf

 

 

S1: Ep5 The Pressure Cooker-Narcissist Victims Syndrome with Tom Murry

S1: Ep5 The Pressure Cooker-Narcissist Victims Syndrome with Tom Murry

September 17, 2020

Back in the garden, Tom Murry and Maegan discuss Narcissist Victims Syndrome and the pressure-cooker of a toxic and abusive relationship. When your soul is slowly being chipped away at and your values destroyed you start to be under so much pressure that you feel like you're going to die. The stress can be so bad from being in these relationships that they physically make you ill and you eventually get angry.

 
What is healthy anger and how do the people in your life support you with this anger so you can release the trauma and let go of the patterns in life so you can have a happy and healthy relationship. 
 
The Divine Self YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf/featured
 
The Divine Self
www.divine-self.com
 
Quoted in this episode:
 
Abraham and Esther Hicks
https://www.abraham-hicks.com/
 
Dr. David Hawkins on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZOPIbidfIQ
 
Les Brown
https://lesbrown.com/

 

S1: Ep4 Connecting to Your True Self with Mayhem Miller

S1: Ep4 Connecting to Your True Self with Mayhem Miller

September 10, 2020

Joining me today the fierce Mayhem Miller discusses connecting to your true self. Mayhem Miller is a fearless drag queen. Mayhem has brought so much to the drag world, showing that being true to who you really are and staying connected to your own inner divine will get you further in life. Mayhem has been seen on RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 10 and Season 5 of All-Stars. She is the perfect example of being fearless and not being afraid to live your best life.

 

Mayhem Miller

Twitter, Instagram and Facebook

@theonlyMayhem

The Divine Self YouTube Channel

https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf

 

The Divine Self

www.divine-self.com

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

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