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Resources for Survivors and Victims

Suggested Reading

Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing the Shame You Don’t Deserve by Beverly Engel

https://www.amazon.com/Escaping-Emotional-Abuse-Healing-Deserve/dp/0806540508

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engle

https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Abusive-Relationship-Abused-Abusing/dp/150126205X

Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie (great for relationships with a Narcissist)

https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1601758526&sr=8-2

Suggest Videos from The Divine Self

Is the Narcissist “Happy” With Their NEW Supply?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QVnf3vhUiA&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=3&t=1s

The Narcissist and Their NEW Supply

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvampF-QpEM&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=4&t=6s

Why the Narcissist Wants You Back

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3w3JelXPiFk&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=5&t=555s

The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link)

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Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/

Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox

S1: Ep17 Managing Expectations While Having Gratitude with Jae Day

December 17, 2020

Managing Expectations While Having Gratitude with Jae Day

The lovely Jae Day joins Maegan in the garden to talk about managing expectations while in a toxic relationship. Life has so many expectations already and when we have high expectations with a narcissist it is really hard to stay grounded. Narcissists are good at empty promises and saying they will deliver your dreams to then turn around and abuse you and not deliver those expectations. Finding gratitude in those moments can help ease the pain of the letdown, keep you connected with you, and raise your vibration to begin to gain your control back of your own expectations. Staying connected to who you really are is key in dealing with a Narcissist.

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The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link)

iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352

Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL3RoZWRpdmluZXNlbGZzZWNyZXRnYXJkZW4vZmVlZC54bWw=

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Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/

Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox

S1:Ep16 Recovering from Toxic Relationships and Narcissistic Abuse with Meg

December 10, 2020

Recovering from Toxic Relationships and Narcissistic Abuse with Meg

Today, Maegan and Megan visit in the garden to talk about the recovery process from abusive and toxic relationships. When you finally say no more with a Narcissist and find the courage to choose you it can be really hard to break the trauma bond. Having the tools to fully recover, take your power back, and regain control over your life is one of the most empowering journeys you will ever take in your life. It can feel very lonely when you leave a Narcissist, and we are here to tell you that you are not alone. Today you will hear the stories of others who have very fulfilling and loving lives once they do the work, break the trauma bond, go no contact, and empower themselves.

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http://www.ashleighspatienceproject.com/

The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link)

iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352

Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL3RoZWRpdmluZXNlbGZzZWNyZXRnYXJkZW4vZmVlZC54bWw=

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Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox

S1: Ep15 The Tragic Story of Murder and a Mothers Dedication to Breaking the Cycle with Tara Woodlee

December 3, 2020

The Tragic Story of Murder and a Mothers Dedication to Breaking the Cycle with Tara Woodlee

On this very special episode Tara Woodlee joins Maegan in the garden to tell the tragic story of her daughter Asleigh Lindsey, and her unborn granddaughter Patience Lynn. Domestic Violence is an epidemic in our world today and the only way to shine a light on the horrific crimes committed against victims all around the world is to stand up tell these heroic stories of survivors. Today 70% of Domestic Violence murders happen when the victim leaves or is about to leave the relationship. This is because Domestic Violence is about Power and Control. Today Tara tells us the details of how this happened in her family and how to break the cycle of abuse.

Meet Tara Woodlee

In 2012 Tara Woodlee lost her 20-year-old daughter, Ashleigh Lindsey, and her unborn granddaughter Patience Lynn to a brutal act of domestic violence that made national news. Tara Woodlee shares the raw truth about domestic violence and gives audiences the opportunity to learn about the impact abuse has on families generationally. Tara, also a survivor, describes the journey from victim to survivor and then the impact her story made on her family finding out thru the death of her child of a 100-year-old history of this cycle of abuse within her family. This knowledge led her to found an organization in her child and grandchild’s honor called the Ashleigh’s Patience Project.

Through the pain, Tara has fought courts and is working to raise awareness and change laws not just across the nation but worldwide. Currently, she is the President of the Board of Directors for a National Domestic Violence Organization called Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence. Tara told Ashleigh’s story on Investigation’s Discovery Channel (Your Worst Nightmare) and was featured in an article in Cosmopolitan Magazine called Stop Calling It Domestic Violence It is Intimate Terrorism, in the US. The U.K. shared her tragic loss in magazines untitled Pick Me Up and Full House. Lastly, Ashleigh’s story is used in the Moving Forward resource that is to help young women identify the signs of domestic violence in their current or future relationships in Queensland Australia. Tara travels the country as a national speaker and Tara’s role in activism has been recognized through the Awarding of the President’s Award for volunteerism in 2018, 2019 & 2020.

The Ashleigh Patience Project

Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence

https://breakthesilencedv.org/

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The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link)

iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352

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Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/

Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox

S1: Ep14 Surviving the Holiday Blues with a Narcissist with Kevin from The Royal We

November 26, 2020

Surviving the Holiday Blues with a Narcissist with Kevin from The Royal We

Joining me in the garden I have Keven from The Royal We here to talk about the Holiday Blues or the Holiday “Boohoos” with a Narcissist. One of the biggest triggers for Narcissistic injury is when you have true joy and happiness. During the Holidays, Birthdays, Anniversaries, work promotions, weddings, and all the moments of joy, the Narcissist cannot stand watching you be happy, so they must take that away from you. They will project their innermost insecurities on to you and make sure to ruin these moments of happiness for you. They start to chip away one little moment at a time. In this episode, we give examples of how they do this and tools to use to survive these moments and empower yourself to not let these moments affect you for the rest of your life.

The Royal We on YouTube

The Royal We Live Chat on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCslDOe-8gV49Kg_j374OJVw

The Royal We Fellowship

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOdSOLD7yyDVmDNdQa0nveA

The Royal We - www.jointheroyalwe.com

Facebook and Instagram @theroyalwehost

YouTube @theroyalwe

Maegan’s Information “The Divine Self”

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf

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https://www.souldoctorshow.com/

Social Media

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

S1: Ep13 The Narcissist is Our Soul Mate with Rebecca Dettman

November 16, 2020

The Narcissist is Our Soul Mate with Rebecca Dettman (aka Soul Doctor)

So many people ask survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence “why don’t you just leave” not knowing the trauma bond between the abuser and survivor is very powerful. Rebecca joins Maegan in the garden today to talk about the spiritual connection the survivor and narcissist have between each other and if the survivor is willing, allowing the narcissist to be their greatest teacher. The Narcissist is so good and finding your insecurities and using that to mirror you during the honeymoon phase of the abuse cycle to then use those same insecurities to abuse you and make you feel unworthy of love and a healthy relationship creating a pattern of abuse that is almost impossible to break free from.

Meet Rebecca Dettman:

Rebecca Dettman began her career working as a national print journalist for a decade, before branching into radio and podcasting. She formerly co-hosted the ACRA award-nominated Soul Sistas national radio show and the global Love-Life podcast, before launching her own Soul Doctor Show in 2016, which has been downloaded more than 100,000 times worldwide.

Since 2005 Rebecca has also worked in private practice as a psychic consultant and channel for higher wisdom. She is a fiction novelist, practicing pagan, feminist, and a modern-day priestess in spiritual service to the community.

Rebecca’s website

The Soul Doctor Show Podcast

https://www.souldoctorshow.com/soul-doctor-podcast/

Bookings and Services of Rebecca

https://www.souldoctorshow.com/bookings/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/326343664400568/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Rebecca_Dettman

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wishingwell.love/

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S1:Ep12 Self-Care and Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Suzanne Falter

November 6, 2020

Self-Care and Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Suzanne Falter

Suzanne Falter joins Maegan in the garden in this episode to talk about self-care. What? What is self-care? Most of us in abusive and toxic relationships have no idea what boundaries are and what self-care is or to process it and become so detached from our emotions that we learn to put others before ourselves. Narcissists love to erode our boundaries and make you jump through hoops to stay focused on them, so you let yourself go little by little. In this episode, Suzanne and Maegan discuss what self-care is, how to start to take care of you, and begin to see where you need more boundaries in life.

Meet Suzanne Falter:

Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster, and essayist whose work has been featured in SELF, O, More, Tiny Buddha, and The New York Times. She is the host of The Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women and Back to Happy podcasts, and has been heard widely on podcasts and radio including Coast to Coast AM. She’s the author of multiple self-help titles including The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks)

Suzanne Falter

www.suzannefalter.com

The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care Book on Amazon

Self-Car for Extremely Busy Women Podcast

https://suzannefalter.com/xbwpodcast/

Back to Happy Podcast

https://suzannefalter.com/backtohappy/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/svfalter

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/suzflt

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S1: Ep11 Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan

October 30, 2020

Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan

Joining me in the garden is Paul Filan. We talk about looking at resentment held in the body that is left over from a toxic relationship with a Narcissist. When we hold resentment in the body we tend to attract more toxic people or even have to take a look at all the relationships in our lives to see if maybe they are no longer serving us in our values and goals. When we are gaslight, lied to, and exploited in toxic relationships we tend to lose ourselves and hold on to so much resentment for our abusers and in turn, can make us physically ill.

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Suggested Reading

Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup

Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie (great for relationships with a Narcissist)

https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1601758526&sr=8-2

S1: Ep10 Toxic Cycles and the Relationship with Alcohol with Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis)

October 22, 2020

In the Garden today, I have Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis) here to talk about our relationship with alcohol and the toxic patterns we have on our life. So many of us in toxic and abusive relationships struggle with our relationship with alcohol as it became a tool to help numb us out from experiencing the abuse or even becomes our friend to help minimize the deep sadness and loneliness we are experiencing. This can give us even more anxiety as we already struggle with our relationship with a Narcissist. Jenn is the founder of Sober Sis. Sober Sis is a wonderful community of women to begin to explore their relationship with alcohol in a judgment-free and rule-free community of like-minded women to find connection and hold the space for one another as they take the journey into exploring their drinking habits. It is truly a divine sisterhood.

Jenn’s Bio:

I'm Jenn (aka SoberSis). I'm a new empty nester and people ask me all the time what I'm going to do in this next season of my life. Well, you're looking at it. I feel passionate about making it safe for women to have a conversation about alcohol without judgment, labels, or rules. I'm a retired "grey area" drinker. Around the middle of my 40's, I was tired, feeling stuck on auto-pilot, and ready for a change. I didn't want to enter the big 5-0 the way I did 40. I took a closer look at my life. My health...mental, physical, and spiritual. I began to find out ways to have more energy, better sleep, and really stay present in my own life. I began to realize wine wasn't doing me any real favors. In fact, it was undoing a lot of my hard work during the day (I call it the detox just to retox loop). It had also become like an emotional crutch to lean on during times of anxiety or even boredom!

So, I started the 21-day reset for women because I wanted to share what I have learned and experienced first hand. Currently, over 8,000 women from all over the world have participated. We're more of a sisterhood and a real community of women pursuing being present and soberminded. Each person has the opportunity and space to renegotiate their relationship with alcohol. We are not a sobriety club although many of us do choose to enjoy an alcohol free lifestyle.

I've spent time taking a break from drinking without having to use willpower or feeling deprived. In fact, I'd say it has turned into more of a mindful lifestyle. Learning the science behind what my body/mind was experiencing has empowered me to make different choices. It's like I was living a somewhat divided life, constantly feeling in conflict and stuck in an internal tug-of-war. God really brought me freedom by bringing together the mind-body-spirit connection so I could live a more wholehearted life. That's how I want to live as I get closer to my 50's and beyond.

Sober Sis Links:

Sober Sis Home Page - www.sobersis.com/home

Free Guide - www.sobersis.com

Free Video Series - https://www.sobersis.com/new-videos

21 Day Reset Challenge - www.sobersis.com/21daychallenge

Follow On Facebook ~ Follow On IG @sobersis

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S1: Ep9 The Perfect Match! The Narcissist/Empath Dance with Denise Correll

October 15, 2020

Our guest today is Denise Correll. Denise joined us to talk about who is the perfect target for the Narcissist and why we attracted them. Narcissists love to suck the Lifeforce out of Empaths and they do the Narcissistic/Empath dance while the cycle of abuse and trauma bond is formed and the intense connection between the two increases. Denise does a weekly podcast called Enlightened Empaths that is on all major podcast channels and she goes into detail about being an Empath, what it is and how to navigate the world when you take on the feeling, emotions and energies of others.

Connect with Denise Correll

The Grateful Messenger

Enlightened Empaths Podcast (on all Major podcast channels)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enlightened-empaths/id1291017961

Join the Enlightened Empath Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/pages/category/Motivational-Speaker/Enlightened-Empaths-474090429627579/

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Mentioned in this Episode

The Empaths Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff, MD

S1: Ep8 Finding Your Voice and Connection with Elisa Gonzales

October 8, 2020

My guest today in the garden is Elisa Gonzales the Assistant Professor of Voice and Acting and the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Elisa is trained in a technique called Fitzmaurice and we discuss how to use the voice, body, and breath to connect to your true self, find your voice and, release trauma from the body. During toxic and abusive relationships, we tend to shrink down and lose our voice and disconnect from who we truly are. It is hard to find a connection to ourselves after we leave a narcissist who has mentally and emotionally abused us or find our voice when finally deciding to put boundaries up with the Narcissist. We open you up to explore where you might need to work on finding our voice or where in the body you are holding unwanted negative energy.

Connect with Elisa to do a Fitzmaurice Workshop

https://www.fitzmauriceinstitute.org/new-gallery-teachers-back-up/2017/11/30/elisa-gonzales

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