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S1: Ep11 Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan

October 30, 2020

Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan

Joining me in the garden is Paul Filan. We talk about looking at resentment held in the body that is left over from a toxic relationship with a Narcissist. When we hold resentment in the body we tend to attract more toxic people or even have to take a look at all the relationships in our lives to see if maybe they are no longer serving us in our values and goals. When we are gaslight, lied to, and exploited in toxic relationships we tend to lose ourselves and hold on to so much resentment for our abusers and in turn, can make us physically ill.

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Suggested Reading

Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup

Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie (great for relationships with a Narcissist)

https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1601758526&sr=8-2

S1: Ep10 Toxic Cycles and the Relationship with Alcohol with Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis)

October 22, 2020

In the Garden today, I have Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis) here to talk about our relationship with alcohol and the toxic patterns we have on our life. So many of us in toxic and abusive relationships struggle with our relationship with alcohol as it became a tool to help numb us out from experiencing the abuse or even becomes our friend to help minimize the deep sadness and loneliness we are experiencing. This can give us even more anxiety as we already struggle with our relationship with a Narcissist. Jenn is the founder of Sober Sis. Sober Sis is a wonderful community of women to begin to explore their relationship with alcohol in a judgment-free and rule-free community of like-minded women to find connection and hold the space for one another as they take the journey into exploring their drinking habits. It is truly a divine sisterhood.

Jenn’s Bio:

I'm Jenn (aka SoberSis). I'm a new empty nester and people ask me all the time what I'm going to do in this next season of my life. Well, you're looking at it. I feel passionate about making it safe for women to have a conversation about alcohol without judgment, labels, or rules. I'm a retired "grey area" drinker. Around the middle of my 40's, I was tired, feeling stuck on auto-pilot, and ready for a change. I didn't want to enter the big 5-0 the way I did 40. I took a closer look at my life. My health...mental, physical, and spiritual. I began to find out ways to have more energy, better sleep, and really stay present in my own life. I began to realize wine wasn't doing me any real favors. In fact, it was undoing a lot of my hard work during the day (I call it the detox just to retox loop). It had also become like an emotional crutch to lean on during times of anxiety or even boredom!

So, I started the 21-day reset for women because I wanted to share what I have learned and experienced first hand. Currently, over 8,000 women from all over the world have participated. We're more of a sisterhood and a real community of women pursuing being present and soberminded. Each person has the opportunity and space to renegotiate their relationship with alcohol. We are not a sobriety club although many of us do choose to enjoy an alcohol free lifestyle.

I've spent time taking a break from drinking without having to use willpower or feeling deprived. In fact, I'd say it has turned into more of a mindful lifestyle. Learning the science behind what my body/mind was experiencing has empowered me to make different choices. It's like I was living a somewhat divided life, constantly feeling in conflict and stuck in an internal tug-of-war. God really brought me freedom by bringing together the mind-body-spirit connection so I could live a more wholehearted life. That's how I want to live as I get closer to my 50's and beyond.

Sober Sis Links:

Sober Sis Home Page - www.sobersis.com/home

Free Guide - www.sobersis.com

Free Video Series - https://www.sobersis.com/new-videos

21 Day Reset Challenge - www.sobersis.com/21daychallenge

Follow On Facebook ~ Follow On IG @sobersis

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S1: Ep9 The Perfect Match! The Narcissist/Empath Dance with Denise Correll

October 15, 2020

Our guest today is Denise Correll. Denise joined us to talk about who is the perfect target for the Narcissist and why we attracted them. Narcissists love to suck the Lifeforce out of Empaths and they do the Narcissistic/Empath dance while the cycle of abuse and trauma bond is formed and the intense connection between the two increases. Denise does a weekly podcast called Enlightened Empaths that is on all major podcast channels and she goes into detail about being an Empath, what it is and how to navigate the world when you take on the feeling, emotions and energies of others.

Connect with Denise Correll

The Grateful Messenger

Enlightened Empaths Podcast (on all Major podcast channels)

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enlightened-empaths/id1291017961

Join the Enlightened Empath Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/pages/category/Motivational-Speaker/Enlightened-Empaths-474090429627579/

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Mentioned in this Episode

The Empaths Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff, MD

S1: Ep8 Finding Your Voice and Connection with Elisa Gonzales

October 8, 2020

My guest today in the garden is Elisa Gonzales the Assistant Professor of Voice and Acting and the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Elisa is trained in a technique called Fitzmaurice and we discuss how to use the voice, body, and breath to connect to your true self, find your voice and, release trauma from the body. During toxic and abusive relationships, we tend to shrink down and lose our voice and disconnect from who we truly are. It is hard to find a connection to ourselves after we leave a narcissist who has mentally and emotionally abused us or find our voice when finally deciding to put boundaries up with the Narcissist. We open you up to explore where you might need to work on finding our voice or where in the body you are holding unwanted negative energy.

Connect with Elisa to do a Fitzmaurice Workshop

https://www.fitzmauriceinstitute.org/new-gallery-teachers-back-up/2017/11/30/elisa-gonzales

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S1: Ep7 Triangulation and Murder/Suicide with Mark Gerardot

October 1, 2020

Joining Maegan in the garden is Mark Gerardot. This is a tragic story of triangulation that ends in a murder/suicide. Mark talks about this tragic love triangle and the story of how it leads to two people losing their lives. Tragically, this is a story that happens way too often when relationships get this complex.

Get the full story in Mark Gerardot's book Irreparable here on amazon (all proceeds go to the Golden Retriever Rescue of Atlanta)

Golden Retriever Rescue of Atlanta

https://www.grra.com/

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S1: Ep6 The Narcissistic Family Dynamic with Kevin from The Royal We

September 25, 2020

Joining me in the Garden today Kevin from The Royal We on YouTube comes to talk about the Narcissistic family dynamic and how the abuse cycle works within the family system. Kevin has extensive knowledge on the topic of Narcissism and was one of my favorite channels to watch as I learned about the abuse cycles in the family dynamic. Kevin's YouTube Channel The Royal We educates supports and encourages so many people to find the strength to leave their abusive dynamic and find their inner strength. So many of us are in a family dynamic that is very abusive and toxic, and we have no idea as this has been our normal throughout our whole life. We dive down the rabbit hole today to start to explore the patterns we picked up in life and discuss the family dynamic and the signs of abuse.

The Royal We on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjl9RgJSokTXPR68wsrX7Zw

The Royal We Live Chat on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCslDOe-8gV49Kg_j374OJVw

The Royal We Fellowship

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOdSOLD7yyDVmDNdQa0nveA

The Royal We - www.jointheroyalwe.com

Facebook and Instagram @theroyalwehost

YouTube @theroyalwe

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S1: Ep5 The Pressure Cooker-Narcissist Victims Syndrome with Tom Murry

September 17, 2020

Back in the garden, Tom Murry and Maegan discuss Narcissist Victims Syndrome and the pressure-cooker of a toxic and abusive relationship. When your soul is slowly being chipped away at and your values destroyed you start to be under so much pressure that you feel like you're going to die. The stress can be so bad from being in these relationships that they physically make you ill and you eventually get angry.

What is healthy anger and how do the people in your life support you with this anger so you can release the trauma and let go of the patterns in life so you can have a happy and healthy relationship.

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Quoted in this episode:

Abraham and Esther Hicks

https://www.abraham-hicks.com/

Dr. David Hawkins on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZOPIbidfIQ

Les Brown

https://lesbrown.com/

S1: Ep4 Connecting to Your True Self with Mayhem Miller

September 10, 2020

Joining me today the fierce Mayhem Miller discusses connecting to your true self. Mayhem Miller is a fearless drag queen. Mayhem has brought so much to the drag world, showing that being true to who you really are and staying connected to your own inner divine will get you further in life. Mayhem has been seen on RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 10 and Season 5 of All-Stars. She is the perfect example of being fearless and not being afraid to live your best life.

Mayhem Miller

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@theonlyMayhem

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S1: Ep3 A Man’s Perspective on Narcissistic Abuse with Tom Murry

September 3, 2020

When we think of toxic and abusive relationships, we mostly think about women. In this episode, Maegan dives deep into a discussion with Thomas Murry and how men are abused, manipulated, and exploited all the time just like women. Men tend to not walk to talk about their experiences as our society tells them to “be a man” or “it's not that bad” and they suffer in silence. Maegan realized this was a hot topic when doing her coaching from her YouTube channel and more men than a woman reached out devastated from being in the wake with a Narcissist.

Tom Murry was Maegan’s neighbor in New York City, and they were close friends for many years. As Maegan fell down the rabbit hole with her Narcissist, Tom was there to coach her through the tough times as he had been down the rabbit hole years before. Both Tom and Maegan discusses in this episode how important it is to have grounding people in your life when in an abusive and toxic relationship and that those people will save your life.

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S1: Ep2 Columbine High School Shooting Survivor - Anne Marie Hochhalter

August 27, 2020

Come join me this week in my secret garden and hear the incredible survival story of Anne Marie Hochhalter. Anne Marie was eating lunch on April 20, 1999, when she was shot multiple times in the back and paralyzed. Anne Marie joins us in the garden to talk about her survival story and her life filled with Narcissistic abuse and gives us a deep dive into the challenges of growing up in a Narcissist family dynamic and her recovery from such trauma in her life.

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